Essence.com featured Bedroom Chemist in their “8 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life This Fall” article. They recommend spicing things up in the bedroom with some new products and we’re here to help you with that!
There was a little corner article in the November issue of marie claire that caught the eye of one of our panelists who forwarded it on to me. The article noted that for singles who were looking for a relationship, it didn’t matter if they started their relationship as a traditional courtship or as a one night stand.
So, naturally, I took a poll among our panelists about their first encounter with their now, happily committed, s.o. How many of them tried to hold out for their “White Wedding” (ok, a month counts) and how many of them immediately “Brought Sexy Back” to their room right away?
We here at B.C. are pretty much split 50/50. Yours truly had a slow and steady progression in my relationship. And, I’m not going to lie, I sort of feel jipped!
For many of us who started our current relationships in the conservative court, did we miss out on the thrill of an unbridled and exotic night of passion with our future partners? And, is it possible to recreate the unpredictableness of a one night stand after we predictably know each and every move our mate is going to make (yes, like that little humping motion he uses to suggest that he wants to get it on)?
I vote yes: there can still be one night stands after the first night.
Here are 10 things that you and your significant other can do to recreate a one night stand:
1. Do NOT have sex in your bed or even your bedroom for that matter. Try your living room, kitchen, hotel, tent in your backyard, or even car. The point here is to spice up your routine, so get out of those comfy flannel sheets!
2. Make up fake names for each other. Use your middle name if you want. Or, translate your name in another language. Then email each other for the next few days as these sexual alter egos. Get excited about the ideas that THEY have in store for the two of YOU!
3. Rummage through your Halloween bin to find an old costume and wear it next time you order takeout. Varsity = wear a sexy cat suit, JV = throw on a wig. By changing your looks, you’ll be amazed at how easily it is to change your persona.
4. Each of you pick a toy from your Chemist’s Kit and use it in a way that you have never tried. Try a toy that’s traditionally for her on him and vise versa. The possibilities are endless!
5. Pick each other up at a bar. What guy doesn’t have a man-crush on Ryan Gosling right now! Why not go so far as to call him “Ryan” when he interrupts the suitor you’ve struck up a conversation with.
6. Set your alarm for a midnight sexcapade. The disorientation of the dark can do wonders for new places that his or your hands may find.
7. (My personal favorite) Recreate your first date but this time take it all the way. That’s right… same restaurant, same dinner, same intro topics. Just end it with a twist!
8. Describe a fantasy to each other and make it happen TONIGHT! Why not become a dominatrix who speaks in a foreign accent? [Note: For those of you who are new to role play, you should establish a "safe word" that you mutually agree will end the fantasy if spoken by either of you. Pick something banal like "tree" or "paper".]
9. Get a crazy wax. Hearts, stars or the moon. Take your pick! It’s all fun and sexy to him.
10. Go on a weekend getaway. Nothing says one night stand than a new city, new sheets and new experiences.
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If you’re like me, the new year always brings new ideas and interests. To switch things up a bit and recharge the romance department, I asked a friend of Bedroom Chemist, Mike, to share the guy’s POV on what makes a good date night. He’s shared his three favorites below. (A quick shout out to his GF Michelle who earns BC’s GF of the year award! Michelle, you rock.)
“My girlfriend Michelle and I have been dating for just about two years now. When Emily asked me to share my favorite dates, I immediately thought of three. Each of them were super different but all of them had the same theme: we got to learn about each other in a new and different way. I think they were fun because we tried something totally out of our comfort zone which was cool.
1. Zydeco dancing at local town hall
A quirky co-worker from Louisiana wanted us to learn about her crazy culture so I agreed to try Zydeco dancing. Coming from the northeast, let’s just say it was interesting…ha! When we first got there, we felt like we were at a high school dance (for our parents). Michelle was way cooler about it than I was. She approached it with an open mind and I begrudgingly got over myself. We learned how to do a simple two step we ended up having a ball! We meet some great people and learned about some great southern music (the washboard…could be one of the coolest instruments ever used in a band!)
2. Trip to NYC and hotel suite for 2 nights
Michelle actually surprised me with this trip for my birthday and it was awesome! We had the opportunity to explore and enjoy each other’s company in the city. We had a romantic dinner at a really intimate restaurant in lower Manhattan. We explored the city together, walked the Brooklyn Bridge and hung out in Central Park. I also got to take her to the “Comedy Cellar” which is my favorite spot in the city.
3. Summer weekend in VT
After a stressful week of work we decided that we would spend some time together and take a road trip to Vermont to explore the mountains…but instead of the typical winter trip, we decided that we would go during the summer!! It was a great decision. We ended up staying at a beautiful ski cottage, which was very romantic because it was all ours. During the days, we explored the town; went to at least 10 different swimming holes, we rented bikes and rode around the town and we went to a holiday festival. During the night we even slept outside under the stars…it was a so relaxing and perfect for us.”
Thanks Mike for sharing the inside scoop on what guys look for in date nights.
My takeaway is that a new experience creates a new level of intimacy. It could be as little as line dancing or as grand as a weekend through Grand Central. Either way, keeping things fun and fresh OUTSIDE the bedroom is another way to recharge your romance beneath the sheets… or the stars for that matter. (I’ll have to get Mike to share what happened the night in VT in a future post.)
Many of you have asked if you could learn more about what is actually IN our Chemist’s Kits. Thanks for asking! We’re more than happy to reveal what was in our fabulous March Kit… as well as share what some of our panelists had to say.
In March, we were kickin’ it old school by honoring the origin of our current romantic reverie: The Great Date Night.
Let’s face it, every one of us who are currently in a relationship started off with a mind-blowing sparks-flying pheromone-mingling Great Date Night. And so it got us thinking… how can we break free of the familiar routine of “dinner at the local restaurant where you know the waiter’s first name, followed by a movie on the couch where you both pass out by 10pm” and get closer to how date nights used to be… when you had to put some thought into it?
After talking to several panelists, we were definitely on to something. As it turns out, a Great Date Night is pretty much guaranteed to create amazing chemistry in the bedroom. And here’s why. Whatever happens prior to intimacy establishes the mood for what kind of intimacy will be experienced later. So, if your date is predictable and familiar, chances are so will be your time beneath the sheets. But, if you and your partner can conjure up a date that’s creative and sexy, you’re guaranteed to experience something equally as thrilling when it’s time to turn down the lights.
With that in mind, March’s atomic trio included products handpicked to offer endless possibilities of exciting dates and the nights thereafter.
DESIRE PHASE: “500 Great Dates”
A great Date Night can’t happen without a great date. And, with Redbook’s “500 Great Dates”, you’ll never run out of ideas! Couples who have been together for 3 weeks or 3 decades crave those just-for-two experiences to stay close and connected. Inside this book there are 500 great ideas for spending time together, some romantic and sexy, some grand, and others are just pure fun. Remember: your date sets the mood for what comes after the date so the only rule is “avoid the familiar” (because who wants familiar sex?).
From one of our panelists: “I absolutely love this book and what it’s done for our relationship. Whenever I’m out of ideas on how to keep things fun and fresh, I flip to a random page and commit to that date night this week. I’ve even picked a page and handed it to my husband to work out the details. Actually, he loves this because he says it takes the pressure off of having to plan something new and he knows I’ll like it.” -Amanda, Dallax TX
FOREPLAY PHASE: Bijoux Indiscrets Bling Bling Diamond Body Dust
Diamonds are a girl’s best friend…especially on date nights! Bling Bling Diamond Body Dust will become your favorite go-to product for date nights to instantly transform you from perfect partner to sexy vixen with just a few puffs of diamond sparkles. Before your date, puff your neck, shoulders and between your breasts for an illuminating and eye catching glow. Did we mention this body dust is edible? After your date, reapply to any areas that his lips are likely to come in contact with your skin for a sweet kissable sensation. Shimmer and you will see the gleam of pure desire in his eyes.
From one of our panelists: “I love treating myself to something flirty and feminine before a date…I guess it sort of helps remind me of my inner sexiness. The Diamond Body Dust was fab. I felt super sexy and my boyfriend enjoyed kissing me all over after dinner (if you know what I mean). He said I shimmered and tasted yummy.” -Amy, St. Louis MO
PASSION PHASE: Sex Kitten Lipstick Vibe
No date night is complete with out a little lipstick, right? Especially if this lipstick has a secret… We couldn’t think of a more appropriate product to take you from Foreplay to Passion than Sex Kitten’s Lipstick Vibe. The possibilities of how to incorporate this unapologetically sexy and ferociously fun vibe into your date night are endless. Toss the travel-sized vibrator in your purse and find a private moment to reveal it’s power to your partner (and have him reveal it to you if you dare!). Or, wait until you get home to freshen up with both actual lipstick as well as the magic of this discreet but powerful little vibe. Either way, we just know that the feminine and sexy appearance will remind you of your inner vixen at next date night.
From one of our panelists: “OMG. This product changed my life. First of all it is super cute and discreet. We’re going on a trip next week and I have absolutely no problem putting it in my luggage because it looks exactly like a tube of lipstick! Second, I’m new to vibes and I’ve got to tell you it completely transformed our sex life. I used it when my hubby and I were intimate and I’ve never experienced a more enjoyable night of passion before. I think I’m going to try a racier date night soon and bring it out with me!” -Jessica, Rochester NY
BONUS: Members were also treated to Love Elixir Warming Lotion as a little gift to keep their date nights hot! When massaged, a gentle breath becomes delightfully warm when you apply to sensitive areas.
Can you believe, all this for less than what you would spend on a monthly mani/pedi or weekly wax? That’s at least 500 original fun and sexy dates for you and your partner plus a bunch of products that you can use over and over again. Kits cost less than buying each item separately and, lucky you, we eliminate the guesswork and blush-factor of a retail store. How far did your twinkle toes get you this month?
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