The Male POV

Best Father’s Day Gift for the Guy in Your Life: A Happy, Passionate You

June 11th, 2013

Father's Day Gift Bedroom ChemistCan’t decide what to get for your honey this Father’s Day? Look no further. We’ve uncovered the absolute best Father’s Day gift for the fellas this year. It’s not a tie, a cabinet, a wallet or a coffee maker. It’s not a new fitness gadget or a fancy razor. Have you guessed it yet? It’s Bedroom Chemist, and here’s why: our carefully curated kits of pleasure make women feel sexy and beautiful.

We all know that everything changes for women after having kids, especially sex. Our bodies look different and feel different. Our libidos are wacky. And yes, let’s admit it, we get a little complacent. We do! We start with the same foreplay we’ve been doing forever. Then we move on to the same two or three positions we’ve been doing forever. Well, not this year, Ladies. This year, Father’s Day is when we affirm that we are – or have the potential to be – horny, fun and vibrant sexpots.

Why is Bedroom Chemist perfect for a Father’s Day Gift? Simple. We know that sexual intimacy often begins with a woman’s desire. Sometimes we need playfulness, sometimes not. Sometimes we need time to warm up and sometimes we’re just ready to rumble. As moms ourselves, we understand that the path to horniness and awesome sex revolves around seeking pleasure for ourselves. Sex is not about pressure or sexpectations, it’s about coming together with our partners to have fun and experience the joy of orgasms. Hooray, orgasms!

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Wait until you see what’s inside Bedroom Chemist’s upcoming kits. They have oodles in there to make you feel fabulous. Need to reconnect with your guy? It’s in the box. Want to explore each other’s bodies and what turns you on? It’s in the box. Want to tap into your adventurous side and try something new? It’s In The Box!

Let us tell you what’s likely to happen this Father’s Day when you sign up for Bedroom Chemist. You’ll have a nice meal, hang with the kiddos, and perhaps let Daddikins play some golf, watch a game or take a nap. Then later in the evening, after the kids go to bed, you’ll hand him a super cute Bedroom Chemist kit with all of those goodies inside. He’ll open it and look up at you with a wide, delighted and slightly surprised grin. You’ll smile back, a shy, slightly mysterious smile.

And in your mind, you’ll be high-fiving us over here at Bedroom Chemist, because we recognize that desire starts when you feel relaxed, empowered and deeply connected to that one very special person in your life. What better time to remember that than on Father’s Day.

SPECIAL FATHER’S DAY GIFT DEAL! Get 20% off if you purchase your Bedroom Chemist kit by June 12, 2013. Click here and enter the code BC20 at check out.

His Favorite Date Nights

March 25th, 2012

If you’re like me, the new year always brings new ideas and interests. To switch things up a bit and recharge the romance department, I asked a friend of Bedroom Chemist, Mike, to share the guy’s POV on what makes a good date night. He’s shared his three favorites below. (A quick shout out to his GF Michelle who earns BC’s GF of the year award! Michelle, you rock.)

“My girlfriend Michelle and I have been dating for just about two years now. When Emily asked me to share my favorite dates, I immediately thought of three. Each of them were super different but all of them had the same theme: we got to learn about each other in a new and different way. I think they were fun because we tried something totally out of our comfort zone which was cool.

1. Zydeco dancing at local town hall
A quirky co-worker from Louisiana wanted us to learn about her crazy culture so I agreed to try Zydeco dancing. Coming from the northeast, let’s just say it was interesting…ha! When we first got there, we felt like we were at a high school dance (for our parents). Michelle was way cooler about it than I was. She approached it with an open mind and I begrudgingly got over myself. We learned how to do a simple two step we ended up having a ball! We meet some great people and learned about some great southern music (the washboard…could be one of the coolest instruments ever used in a band!)

2. Trip to NYC and hotel suite for 2 nights
Michelle actually surprised me with this trip for my birthday and it was awesome! We had the opportunity to explore and enjoy each other’s company in the city. We had a romantic dinner at a really intimate restaurant in lower Manhattan. We explored the city together, walked the Brooklyn Bridge and hung out in Central Park. I also got to take her to the “Comedy Cellar” which is my favorite spot in the city.

3. Summer weekend in VT
After a stressful week of work we decided that we would spend some time together and take a road trip to Vermont to explore the mountains…but instead of the typical winter trip, we decided that we would go during the summer!! It was a great decision. We ended up staying at a beautiful ski cottage, which was very romantic because it was all ours. During the days, we explored the town; went to at least 10 different swimming holes, we rented bikes and rode around the town and we went to a holiday festival. During the night we even slept outside under the stars…it was a so relaxing and perfect for us.”

Thanks Mike for sharing the inside scoop on what guys look for in date nights.

My takeaway is that a new experience creates a new level of intimacy. It could be as little as line dancing or as grand as a weekend through Grand Central. Either way, keeping things fun and fresh OUTSIDE the bedroom is another way to recharge your romance beneath the sheets… or the stars for that matter. (I’ll have to get Mike to share what happened the night in VT in a future post.)

Start Spreading the Love – Part II

March 11th, 2012

As promised, here are some of our panelist’s top ideas on how to create the taboo of “adult store” sexiness in the intimacy of your own relationship (You might want to read “Start Spreading the Love – Part I” for the context):

1) Pass the undies. Next time you are out for a romantic date night, dress in your sexiest LBD but, instead of putting your undies on, spritz them with your signature perfume and tuck them in your purse. Then, between the appetizers and the main course, slyly slide your undies into your partner’s pocket. As soon as he reaches for his wallet and finds your sexy surprise, his mind will start racing and he’ll say “check please” so fast that the only dessert you’ll enjoy is each other.

2) The rest of you. After his next big work-out offer to give your partner a massage. Warm up massage oil or lotion between your palms and start massaging him with long broad strokes on his shoulders and down his back. Begin to dig in to his muscles with your palms, arms and elbows. And, when he’s not expecting it, take off your shirt and lean in to massage him with the rest of you. Once he realizes what’s going on, he’ll throw the relaxation out the window and want to return the favor with the rest of him.

3) ‘Knot’ knowing what to expect next. Next time he comes home from the office, don’t let him hang up his tie just yet. Grab his tie, lead him into the bedroom, loosen the neck knot and gently slip the loop up over his eyes to create a makeshift blindfold. No need for any fancy moves here… The mere excitement of not knowing what to expect next will intensify his intimate experience as well as your shared bliss.

Start Spreading the Love – Part I

March 3rd, 2012

What is it about New York City that highlights the best and worst of intimacy? How did the same city that gave us the romance of a carriage ride through central park also spawn the back-alley peep show shops of Times Square?

Perched safely in Starbuck’s, as I looked up from my paper, my morning was interrupted by a porn shop staring me down from directly across the street, challenging my idyllic view of good lovin’. Excuse me Mr. Porn Shop, but didn’t Giuliani send you packing west of the Hudson in the 90s? What gives you the right to interrupt a perfectly delicious double latte

Since it is apparent to me that the neon lights of these shops were designed to only attract the XY chromosome (guys) and utterly repel the XX (gals), I asked the resident Bedroom Chemist guy (my husband) to give me the male POV on what guys like about porn shops. After he nearly choked on his black house roast in response to my question, his answer was quite surprising… “Um, not really anything”. In fact, the majority of guys I spoke with (besides my crimsoned-cheeked husband) have never even set foot inside one of those places. So what gives?

It turns out that that the good guys merely like the “idea” of porn shops… the fantasy of erotic abandonment which to them is quintessential sexiness at its core. But porn shops are still just as gross and sketchy to guys as they are to us gals. Why? The answer is simple: While the taboo is intriguing, it usually is accompanied by a complete lack of emotion or tenderness.

So guys love the sexiness but miss the love.

(Bingo! Precisely why I started Bedroom Chemist.)

So how can you and your guy create the erotic excitement of a porn shop within the caring confines of your relationship? Stay tuned for ideas in the next post.